Archive for April, 2011

I was thinking about what would be on my list of the 5 most important things and my list goes something like sex, health, family, friends, and career, although I’d have a hard time putting into an exact order.

But sex is for sure on the list and I kind of wonder for what percentage of the population does it make the list? And what went wrong for it to have not made the list?

Sex makes you feel good inside for the next day or two, all studies show that it improves your health, longevity, and outlook on life, and people with a good sex life are generally happier, and when you think about it, a good sex life also has to make a relationship stronger.

How is it that it doesn’t make the list for everyone?

One thing that I’ve discussed with people from Adult FriendFinder is how much you learn about sex from being on this site. And it makes me think that with how important sex is to well being, why something like being on this site is taboo, I mean, we are all perverts for being here and we don’t even know it, well, that has to be the perception overall when you think about it. How many of your friends do you discuss what you read or did on Adult FriendFinder? And why does the majority keep Adult FriendFinder a secret.

Actually, is Adult FriendFinder a secret for you? My perception is that it does tend to be a secret for most. Men I talk to from here often say they’d never mention it to the girl they’ve just started seeing. Me, I only discuss Adult FriendFinder with friends from Adult FriendFinder.

I think some of what I’m getting at here, the taboo, is why sex fails to make the list of importance for some people.

Lots of thoughtful comments on my more recent posts, and they have got me thinking.

mzhunyhole said that men have a higher sex drive, and I think that is a wide spread belief, but I do wonder if it is sex drive or perhaps that women just put more brakes on sexual activity?

It has me thinking, what is the difference between sex drive and how horny you get in the moment? I think men get very horny in the moment, they have been known to promise the world. This is where I think woman put on the brakes, the drive is there, but there can be a list of other needs before a woman lets go.

These things happen in both sexes, but I think there are those differences in how much they happen between the sexes.

I was thinking about how each of us as individuals measures our sex drive compared to others. I think on this site most of us consider ourselves to have a higher then average dating sex drive.

I was thinking about all the things that makes me think I have a higher then average sex drive. When I consider what I’m about to say, it seems very obvious to feel this way, I have a higher then average sex drive, but I never considered that my feelings were a result of a higher sex drive, but perhaps felt that because others express themselves a certain way, I should agree.

One of the things is often talking to women dating friends they have complained that when they see their boyfriend, he always wants sex and never wants to see them for the sake of seeing them. Explore this further and you find they are seeing their boyfriend 2-3 times per week. Well, SHIT, I’d want adult sex everytime if that’s only how often you see each other!!!! But, the way it is expressed is that the guy isn’t really treating you with respect, only as a adult sex object, if they want sex everytime they see you…

I don’t think I’ve ever complained that a guy only wants to see me for adult sex, I’ve always wanted the sex as well, so, there is a measure that I have a higher adult sex drive then many of my dating girlfriends…

What kind of measures do you use as to where you think your sex drive is compared to others?

I’ve visited this topic in the past, Male ejaculation, orgasm and control. It is interesting to me because I’d really never heard anything formal about it until Adult Sex Dating, and then it was from chatting to people and someone bringing up the topic.

From what I’ve heard about this is that the men that manage to master it do not lose their erection, ejaculate, but experience the feeling of orgasm, and they can continue on to have many of these orgasmic sensations.

In a recent post someone did mention this. The b/f that I had that used to do this was constantly tearing my clothes off, as I was his, so it was obviously working for both of us. I asked him about the lack of cum once, he explained how good what he was doing felt to him, and I never worried about it again.

I hear a number of guys saying they try to think about less pleasurable things to hold off, but this approach sounds like a lot more fun to me…

Any other methods to hold off? I’ve also heard about training through masturbating, bringing closer and closer to orgasm and fighting it back, over and over again.

Reading people’s comments always seems to bring out questions about sexuality and in one of my recent posts I did mention that I thought Adult Sex Dating was a secret for most of us, but, thinking about it more, I’ve had men tell me they heard about Adult Sex Dating from a friend.

I think that there are probably strong male female differences in how we all came to Adult Sex Dating. I got here quite by accident, as far as how you might describe an accident. I was looking for specific reading material when I came upon my first sex site, and well, that kind of opened a door in a way that I never imagined. Anyone who’s read some of my earlier blogs might have had a good laugh at my story about my “horror” at actually getting an email… And my goodness, where did it lead… The slippery slope of adult sex dating sites
Back to my question, how is it that you happened onto Adult Sex Dating?

I was thinking more about how I evaluate that I have a higher then “normal” sex drive.

I’ve been in relationships where I initiate adult dating sex way more then my partner, or fairly equal to my partner.

Off topic here, but adult dating sex is better for me when I’ve initiated it as well. Obviously the person initiating it is already horny.
From looking around Adult Sex Dating, a non-initiating partner seems to be a fairly common complaint.
I did have one partner that initiated sex to the point that I couldn’t keep up with him. I remember deciding that I was just going to see if I could satisfy him, and I think I called it quites after he’d gotten off about 8 times and I was so sore, I almost couldn’t walk.
Other then that adult personals experience, the weight of who does the intiating suggests that I have a higher drive then my sex dating partners.

That was a question in one of my comments.
Me, I enjoy sex more.
I think that question was supposed to be answered males versus females…
Don’t you ever feel like no one likes it as much as you do?

I was thinking about adult sex and happiness today. People all the time say certain things don’t make you happy, happiness comes from with in, blab, blab, blab…
But I was thinking about adult sex and happiness and adult sex makes me very happy. There’s nothing like a marathon session of adult sex that puts a smile on your face and gives you an inner glow and just plain old good feelings inside.

What can be more within? Good adult sex makes me happy, very happy, and I’m really not happy without adult sex, so I’d even go as far to say lack of sex makes me unhappy, kind of dead inside, and lacking joy, and passion for other things. I think good sex makes more passionate for other things.

What about you, are happy even if you feel like you’re in a sexual void? Or perhaps it could be described as happy as you can be. I mean, if you describe yourself as happy and your adult sex dating life is crap, do you think you’d be happier if your adult sex life was better?

Before I found Adult Sex Dating, I found this other site and I agreed to meet a guy from there and he didn’t show up. Much to my stupidity, I gave him a second chance and damn if he didn’t show up again.

I then found him to be extremely deceptive, he gave me a false phone number and few other shady things.

So, moving forward a year, he has started emailing me here, I guess not realising I already know he’s a toad.

Anyway, I tried one of those quick mail replies, “Sorry, not interested in dating gay or bi men,” only because it didn’t seem fair to whoever lived at the false address I was thinking of giving him…

Anyone caught on a adult personals site would be asked to leave. What do they think we are, a bunch of perverts?
You think those internet cafe’s wouldn’t be so interested in what you were doing.
Well, my internet access to adult personals has been almost non-existent. I might be able to arrange something better in about a week or two.
Hope no one in this internet cafe is looking over my shoulder…