Men for Erotic Chat or Email or Intimate Relations

been married along time and have only had very boring sex. I'm looking for a man who is tender yet rough. a man who listens to my needs as i will him. someone i can trust and experiment with. no one night stands please.no married men, as i'm looking for less drama and not more problems. looking for a friend with benefits that might evolve into something more.
My Ideal Person: someone that isn't in a hurry..that will take their time and enjoy foreplay. prefer a friend with benefits...to go out with and have great sex. try things we both want to try. someone kind and caring.someone that isn't selfish and enjoys mutual orgasms, or least wont stop till both are satisfied. someone to go out with be it dinner or a show and have fun.
What are your favorite musicians or bands?:led zepplin, foo fighters, chili peppers, soundgarden, u2, gavinrossdale, etc.
What location do you fantasize about for a sexual encounter?:The beach, A moving vehicle (i.e. car), The middle of a park, A dark back alley, A remote wilderness spot, Under a waterfall, A swimming pool or hot tub, An elevator, No particular place, Anywhere
What types of sexual activities turn you on?:Giving Oral Sex, Receiving Oral Sex, Toys (Vibrators/Dildos/etc.), Spanking, Mutual Masturbation, Food Play, Making Home "Movies", Participating in Erotic Photography, Massage
What factors are most important to you when looking for a sexual partner?:Sexual experience, Physical attraction, Ability to be discreet, Open to m???�nage ???� trois and/or orgies, Sexual appetite, Willingness to freely discuss and try anything, Creativity/Kinkiness level
Have you ever had cybersex?:I've tried it, but it's just not the same.