IMHO from Adult Sex Dating emails, it’s not too difficult to identify a guy is only cares about pleasing himself in bed from a guy who enjoys pleasing his lady in bed.
My rule of thumb is, the higher the level of a guy’s patience, the more likely he’s the type who likes to please his lady and not just himself.
The level of a guy’s patience can be ascertained from how quickly he wants to jump into bed with me. And is this respect, Adult Sex Dating emails I get from guys fall into 3 main categories:
1) The ones who obviously want to jump into bed with me ASAP (and probably anything else with a vagina). Their emails usually are short and straight to the point… they ask right away when I can meet them, or throw in their handphone number or email address and ask me to call or add them on my messenger. Some don’t even bother to ask anything and just say little else except something along the lines of they want to fack. This, to me, is very good sign that they most likely only care about their own sexual satisfaction.
I always ignore these kind of emails. And there were also a couple of guys I did get to the point of giving my number to, but when they only sms-ed me to ask when we could have a quickie, I lost interest. It didn’t even matter to me that one of the guys was pretty hot.
2) The ones who actually want to get to know me better, taking the time to read my profile and responding to it. These guys will write a long email, introducing themselves. And then tell me why they found me interesting from what they read on my profile. And after I give them my contact to chat online, we have meaningful conversations apart from sex. And all the guys I have met who fall in this category have been the types who get a kick out of pleasing me in bed. I get a kick out of them too, of course!
3) The ones who’s emails are too neutral to tell their level of patience. Usually they just ask if we can be friends. It’s hard to tell because they could be the patient lady pleasing type but just don’t know how to talk, or they could be the impatient type but are trying to make themselves ‘sound’ like they are actually interested in getting to know the girl when all he actually wants is to get into her pants.
My apologies to these poor sods, but considering I like to have good conversations with my men, I usually don’t bother to waste time with the neutral emails either.
So kudos to all the patient guys who fall in category no. 2
Well, that’s just my two cents. Perhaps other ladies on this site have other opinions on how they wean the good guys from the ‘wham-bam-thank-you-maams’?

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